Fate, A Case Study (cont.)

Despite all of the good Fate has delivered my way: my husband, my children, my job, my cancer cure, it is unnerving to know Fate can take what he wants from me in a matter of seconds.

Fate as an evil monster: Case Study #2

“Please. Please. Please. Everyone PRAY for my daughter Molly.”

This is how KayeEllen17 began her Tweet on January 31, 2021, the day her 12-year old daughter suffered a traumatic brain injury after a biking accident. I, like so many others, began following Molly’s battle through her mother’s Twitter posts, where she wrote a narrative account of the ups and downs of Molly’s life-threatening injury and prognosis. Kaye shared the excruciating heartache, fear, and sense of helplessness she endured while her daughter was in surgery or awaiting test results, but she also shared her steadfast resolve and faith for a full recovery.  She prayed her daughter would regain consciousness as did over 100,000 Twitter followers who joined her vigil. Kaye named this group, “Team Molly.” 

During the hours she spent by her daughter’s side in the intensive care unit, Kaye introduced the world to Molly. We learned Molly had plans to change the world. She was an old soul. She was adored by two parents and two younger brothers. She wrote poetry. She was an animal lover. She was a successful student, despite her ADHD diagnosis. She was an advocate for human rights, and was deeply upset over the killing of George Floyd. She was so young…

But Fate can be an evil monster.

Despite some of the best medical care and multiple attempts to reduce the brain swelling, Molly succumbed to her injuries 16 days after the accident.

In these times of Covid, grieving has become a solitary process. Yet despite the physical isolation imposed by the pandemic, Kaye generated a community of supporters to help her manage through the trauma of the loss of a child. Shortly after Molly’s death, Kaye expressed great comfort and gratitude for the outpouring of sympathy and memorializing. I was one of 100,000+ followers who grieved along with Kaye and her family. 

Fate didn’t bring “Team Molly” together; a terrified mother’s need for human connection brought us together. Humanity is a powerful shield from Fate’s cruel punches. Our humanous stepped in to uplift a grieving family and celebrate the life of their beloved daughter, and that is something Fate can’t ever take away from us.

RIP Molly Steinsapir. Your light shines brightly.

The artist, Jerome Ehrlich, painted this portrait of Molly and her dog Calvin for the family after news of her death.

Kaye and Molly Steinsapir were featured in a New York Times story on February 17th.

6 thoughts on “Fate, A Case Study (cont.)

  1. This is a lovely piece, however sad. You call it fate, I call it “an accident.” I just had a conversation about accidents with my friend who accidentally broke her little granddaughter’s leg , taking her down the slide on a lap. One year ago my daughter had an accident crossing the street, hit by a car running a red light. Her injuries were bad but recoverable. A friends sister was struck by a car leaving her polling place and her brain injuries were not, and a young mother and doctor died.
    Accidents do happen. We are so grateful when they avoid being serious, so bereft and wondering why when they take a life. You are so right about grieving alone these days but you were part of this mother’s enormous community grieving with her. I hope and trust she feels that presence.


    1. I am so sorry to hear about your daughter’s accident and even more sorry to hear about your friend’s sister!! Yes, terrible accidents indeed. Thank you for your comments and for making the connections!


  2. Your post reveals the power for good that social media and today’s blazing fast technology can provide. Movements like BLM, social revolutions in far flung countries and help for a refugee camp in Kenya benefit from free and open media. However, in these times, it is the human connections that feel vital — as your post so well points out.

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  3. There is something amazing and good about caring for people you never knew and learning their stories. Thanks for sending love and support to Kaye and Molly. You tell their story well.

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  4. This post had my heart in my throat, the choking ache that comes with grieving. My mom believes in Fate and has been preparing me for the worst, reminding me to choose hope over anguish every day because you just don’t know when your time comes. You manage to tell this story with such grace. My takeaway- ” Humanity is a powerful shield from Fate’s cruel punches. Our humanness stepped in to uplift a grieving family and celebrate the life of their beloved daughter, and that is something Fate can’t ever take away from us.”

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