Despite all of the good Fate has delivered my way: my husband, my children, my job, my cancer cure, it is unnerving to know Fate can take what he wants from me in a matter of seconds.
Fate as an evil monster: Case Study #2
“Please. Please. Please. Everyone PRAY for my daughter Molly.”
This is how KayeEllen17 began her Tweet on January 31, 2021, the day her 12-year old daughter suffered a traumatic brain injury after a biking accident. I, like so many others, began following Molly’s battle through her mother’s Twitter posts, where she wrote a narrative account of the ups and downs of Molly’s life-threatening injury and prognosis. Kaye shared the excruciating heartache, fear, and sense of helplessness she endured while her daughter was in surgery or awaiting test results, but she also shared her steadfast resolve and faith for a full recovery. She prayed her daughter would regain consciousness as did over 100,000 Twitter followers who joined her vigil. Kaye named this group, “Team Molly.”
During the hours she spent by her daughter’s side in the intensive care unit, Kaye introduced the world to Molly. We learned Molly had plans to change the world. She was an old soul. She was adored by two parents and two younger brothers. She wrote poetry. She was an animal lover. She was a successful student, despite her ADHD diagnosis. She was an advocate for human rights, and was deeply upset over the killing of George Floyd. She was so young…
But Fate can be an evil monster.
Despite some of the best medical care and multiple attempts to reduce the brain swelling, Molly succumbed to her injuries 16 days after the accident.
In these times of Covid, grieving has become a solitary process. Yet despite the physical isolation imposed by the pandemic, Kaye generated a community of supporters to help her manage through the trauma of the loss of a child. Shortly after Molly’s death, Kaye expressed great comfort and gratitude for the outpouring of sympathy and memorializing. I was one of 100,000+ followers who grieved along with Kaye and her family.
Fate didn’t bring “Team Molly” together; a terrified mother’s need for human connection brought us together. Humanity is a powerful shield from Fate’s cruel punches. Our humanous stepped in to uplift a grieving family and celebrate the life of their beloved daughter, and that is something Fate can’t ever take away from us.
RIP Molly Steinsapir. Your light shines brightly.
The artist, Jerome Ehrlich, painted this portrait of Molly and her dog Calvin for the family after news of her death.
Kaye and Molly Steinsapir were featured in a New York Times story on February 17th.