Dating Catalog, Spring 2022

I have several friends, now in their fifties, who have re-entered the dating scene after recent divorces. It took some time for each of them to navigate through the new digital age of dating but now exclusively meet men through apps like Bumble, Tinder, and OKCupid. 

I get it. We are in the dawn of a social revolution. Initial connections are made through instant messages and profiles. Gone are the days when the sexual tension was a slow build: a shared ride up an elevator, the guy you randomly meet at a friend’s party, or the “I love this band too” fan you just happen to place your blanket next to at Lollapalooza.

In the new dating world, randomness is non-existent. Where is the romantic intrigue? Social apps lack the raw, unfiltered, gutsy part of a real human, full-sensory encounter, one with a magnetic force so strong it electrifies.  Instead, dating apps are conducting millions of laboratory experiments, with far too many controlled variables. The chance encounters deleted from dating lingo, replaced by calculated choices like, swipe left, swipe left, swipe right.

I certainly do not knock anyone for using dating apps. They are essential. My friends tell me if dating apps didn’t exist, it would be near impossible to meet a future partner. 

“The world doesn’t work like it used to when we were younger.” They tell me. “Fish don’t swim in the sea anymore, they dart around in a crowded fish bowl hunting for just the right baited hook.”

3 thoughts on “Dating Catalog, Spring 2022

  1. It is interesting to think about dating in our day vs. today. I think both have their pluses and minuses. There are probably some dates I would have avoided had I had a little more information, but I might have also missed out on “real human, full-sensory encounter, one with a magnetic force so strong it electrifies” as you so eloquently put it.

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  2. You compare and contract this dating concept so well. I especially like your word choices and examples: a shared ride up an elevator, the guy you randomly meet at a friend’s party, or the “I love this band too” fan you just happen to place your blanket next to at Lollapalooza.

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